I realize that I haven't written in a while and that is because I'm working on my spring/summer 2014 collection and on my work lengthy work of fiction and so I unfortunately can't share any of that with you! That said, I will post a roundup of photos from this week-en and last as I've been getting out and enjoying the sunshine when I'm not writing or prepping the collection and I've finally begun refreshing my apartment, starting with the kitchen, which I am painting today.
In the meantime, however, I will share something about my personal life by copy/pasting what I just posted on facebook:
People who know me and my former serial monogamist ways were shocked when I declared that I was going to take a year off from any sort of dating at all... and did it. For a year-and-a-half, even! Not only did the last relationship I have completely destroy me but I felt I needed to take the time to learn about who I am when I'm not one half of a partnership and soaking up someone else's habits, tastes and mannerisms, as we tend to do over time, when in a relationship. Who am I when I'm not morphing into "us"?
It was the best gift I've ever given myself! I know that when I see how much my children and I have bonded, how much my self-confidence has grown, the direction my home decor, career, travels, etc. have taken, the people I've been meeting and befriending, the overall sense of happiness and in the way that I am living my life out loud.
I see it most, however, now that I am thinking of dating again. The shit I used to let slide not to have to be alone! Wow! I know what I want and, more importantly at times, what I DON'T want and that is how I can write messages like the following, instead of over-thinking and somehow convincing myself that I should give the guy a shot because I need to have someone or multiple someones in my life:
"I'm slightly torn here because you're tall and I like that, you're handsome enough, you can spell (sadly a rarity in these parts), you sound like you know what you want out of life, you seem to enjoy a lot of the same things as I do but the wrong date of birth thing is an alarm bell, as is the fact that everything in your profile feels like it's dripping with arrogance. I think I will pass and wish you good luck because I, too, know what I want and this, over any length of time, would piss me off.
I'll leave you with two tips, if I may: Opening up your first message to someone with "I may be mistaken but your profile seems somewhat interesting" is probably more eyebrow raising than smile-inducing. Secondly, telling women what kind of shoes they should wear and how often is also probably not the best plan if you want to attract strong, sure-minded women, as you so state.
That said, you have one of the more (somewhat) interesting profiles I've seen in a while (unless I'm mistaken) and I'm sure you'll do well out there. And again, good luck!"
On that note, I will make a pot of decaf and a smoothie and start my day. Have a great week-end!
7:03 AM
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